Christian dating being intentional
If you’re feeling lucky, try Googling “christian dating advice.” We’ll see you next week…But wait!
Christians aren’t the only ones obsessed with the dating scene.
You’re marrying her because her heart posture has the potential to sustain a 60 year marriage. What we really should be focusing on are the qualities that indicate good long-term potential. Guys tend to overlook obvious deficiencies because… But neither of these issues are properly addressed by saying, “Don’t marry for potential.”Even if someone is a master of being single, marriage introduces a fat new batch of troubles (aka “growth opportunities”) to work out. You have an entire life ahead of you, so yes, it’s okay to marry someone for their potential to partner with you in living that life healthily and successfully.
I’d rather be with someone ignorant who has a heart to learn than an expert who’s convinced she has all the answers. This is a favorite line of everyone who thinks their dating advice poops golden little marriage eggs.
I don’t recall signing over my personal responsibility to every woman on the planet with nicely toned legs and a propensity for living. I’m just saying that if you know what you want, why wait until he figures it out? If you get married at age 25, you’ll spend at least two thirds of your life in a relationship. One of the biggest problems in Christian dating culture is the idea that young adults should limit their coed relationships to marriage fast-track candidates.
If you want to truly understand how ridiculous this notion is, here’s what it would sound like with the gender roles reversed. No to offloading your immaturity onto the women around you. You should probably go ahead and learn how to relationship while you’re Jesusing. This idea is primarily motivated by fear of voracious little sex drives running about, and like anything motivated by fear, it jumbles everything into a needless mess.
That means that God has given us a ‘mission to love’.
If you use the phrase, “Don’t marry her for her potential,” in a discussion, it’s considered pro-level wisdom. You’re marrying him because his unflinching honesty thus far suggests a lifetime of honesty and vulnerability in your relationship. A good choice today doesn’t solidify a good choice tomorrow. Women have a tendency to date “fixer uppers” in order to feel needed.No matter how easy it is to fall in love, staying in love requires attention and effort.