Stories about dating violence
For some, these intense new feelings can lead to controlling or obsessive behaviors, and sometimes they take a turn for the worse.
As anyone who's been there knows, it can be hard to break away, even when your gut tells you that things are not OK.
Maybe he grabbed your wrist too hard or insisted you have sex even though you didn't feel like it.
Later he told you he didn't mean it, that he was sorry and he wouldn't do it again. If any of this sounds familiar, you're in the company of what may be millions of others, including some particularly high-profile young women—Sarah Hyland has made headlines for allegedly being abused by longtime boyfriend Matt Prokop, and the reports of domestic violence by professional football players continue be a huge cultural issue.
"You might sort of laugh because it's unbelievable, but you still have a weird feeling.
And you have to trust your gut that if something feels weird or inappropriate, it probably is."That said, it may be hard to tell if someone is going to turn violent until they do.
"It was my first real relationship, and I felt important and special," Chloe says.
She couldn't deny that he had a temper, but honestly, his bad-boy persona was part of what she found so appealing in the first place. When rumors circulated that Josh had cheated on her and she tried to talk to him about it, he got angry.
You might make excuses or blame yourself—he didn't mean it, I don't want him to get into trouble, I provoked him.She was also afraid of what other people would say.Would they believe Ali hadn't "asked for it," as her friend said she had?It doesn't matter if you willingly went over to his house or if you were drinking.
It doesn't matter what you wore."Some behavior is obviously problematic, like if he hits you or hurts you in any way.
At a school dance, Chloe says, he refused to take pictures because he didn't like what she was wearing.